For our final article on this month’s theme of self-love, I actually needed to broaden on the publish I wrote two weeks in the past about accepting our physique modifications as we age. An enormous a part of that journey for me has been making an attempt to rediscover my private type and dressing for the physique I’ve now. So I hope you are prepared for an epic publish on this matter as a result of we have now so many ideas and concepts for learn how to get that buying mojo again, I’ll even have to start out making this its personal collection!!
As a fast recap: In my 20’s and into my early 30’s I used to be sometimes a measurement 2-Four. Today I hover round a measurement Eight-10, and that mixed with a really brief 5’2″ body has confirmed to be fairly the problem on the subject of clothes purchasing. In consequence, I’ve taken to a formulaic strategy of bulkier/unfastened tops and thin denims as my go-to look. And whereas that is all positive and good, I’ve actually struggled with discovering items which are just a little extra elevated. I have to get out of dressing by behavior and into dressing with intention. I noticed that I miss dressing with extra confidence in clothes that basically feels ME.
So I made a decision to succeed in out to my good pal and private stylist Tiffany Wendel to get her assist with some critical wardrobe refreshing. I had already completed a number of rounds of purging in my closet (important earlier than beginning to re-build!), throwing out any gadgets that I knew would by no means match once more, I did not really feel assured or enthusiastic about, or I’ve had for therefore lengthy they’re simply unhappy. After that Tiffany came to visit to see what was left…
First off, this gal is such a ray of sunshine and a gem to work with, if you cannot inform by that massive smile. Her power all through the method is so incredible, and she or he’s constructive but in addition very trustworthy with what works and what does not. (PS – she travels!)
Tiff started by pulling gadgets out of the closet that she (and I) felt have been most true to my private fashion – and what that fashion was. Then we refined it even extra by solely taking a look at issues from the attitude of a fall/winter wardrobe. I wrestle probably the most on this season, as a result of I hate dressing for chilly climate!! Once we have been executed, we had somewhat capsule of what felt very me.
This course of felt rather a lot like what I’m going by way of with inside shoppers, and I really like that Tiffany created this visible path in order that I might really feel assured that she ‘acquired’ me and my fashion. In colour palette, I are likely to go pretty darkish and impartial, and with patterns I have a tendency to stay to stripes, leopard, and typically just a little boho floral and fauna. There are specific silhouettes that I am clearly snug with. It definitely helped that I’ve some concept of what my private type is, even when there are just a few items in my wardrobe that basically categorical it proper now.
Tiffany additionally requested me a number of fast however considerate questions on myself to assist work out what we would have liked to buy. We talked about what my ‘on a regular basis’ seems to be like in addition to what sort of occasions I wanted a extra refined ‘on model’ search for (talking engagements, dinners, shopper shows, and so forth). She magically, and shortly, honed in on the truth that what I needed was a ‘winter boho’ wardrobe; A strategy to put on my favourite piece (flowy clothes) within the lifeless of February. However that I additionally wanted enjoyable methods to raise my on a regular basis look as nicely.
I offered her an inventory of things that I needed so as to add from issues I had thrown out (a great strong blazer, a pair of black boots), and additionally put collectively a pinterest board for inspiration, protecting in thoughts that these must be outfits I used to be impressed by however that additionally felt real looking for my physique.
We parted methods for a pair hours and met again up at Nordstrom the place she had (once more magically and shortly) pulled collectively a whole HUGE dressing room filled with denim, clothes, blouses and footwear for me to dig into. Now, I am not going to bore you with this half an excessive amount of as a result of I’ll spotlight all of the items that we found and beloved, BUT I’ll say that the try-on course of is one thing you higher be ready for! My strategies? Do your hair and make-up so you are feeling fabulous. Hydrate and snack. And check out your very best to enter it with an open thoughts and a recent pair of eyes with the intention to permit your self to see your self the best way others see you.
After hours and hours of making an attempt issues on, and most of them being complete fails (as a result of that is what this course of is about!) we emerged from the dressing room with some very clear winners and some robust maybes. I bought all of them and introduced them residence…
Not surprisingly… there was a variety of black. Ha! However I used to be actually enthusiastic about getting a couple of enjoyable prints and shade in there too! Tiffany was nice about pulling gadgets in fairly a worth vary for me as nicely, so you will see as I begin linking to issues that a few of them have been loopy reasonably priced (hiya footwear!) whereas others have been splurges. We’ll get into that a bit too!
Okay, so this is what we have been working with once we began. Like I stated: my typical outfit. Skinny denim (all the time in black) with an outsized prime, sometimes paired with sneakers. To be clear, Tiffany is just not asking me to throw away something I really like and am snug in, the truth is right here you possibly can see her giving me some styling ideas for once I do put on this look. However after our type session I really feel extra extra assured in saying that this look will solely be considered one of many go-to’s as an alternative of the solely go-to in my wardrobe.
The very first thing Tiffany did was make me attempt on excessive waisted, straight leg denim. I needed to die. I did it anyway. The primary pair sucked. The second pair nailed it, and she or he proved me incorrect for the primary and positively not the final time that day. This is why:
As somebody who is brief, I assumed high-waisted denim was chopping me off in a approach that made my torso really feel even shorter. However truly having denim that goes as much as my pure waist – as a curvier gal – actually helped exhibit my physique as an alternative of hiding it. An enormous a part of me feeling assured in sporting these denims is – you guessed it – embracing my physique itself. I need to reiterate that one million occasions over. This fashion is all about rocking these curves as an alternative of hiding them, but in addition giving myself a form that I used to be all the time hiding!
And, as Tiffany is demonstrating right here – you do not purchase excessive waisted pants simply to cowl them up. She took my cumbersome sweater and tucked that factor proper in for the right impact.
Including a heel as an alternative of a flat helps instantly elongate the leg too. Apparently I had been doing one factor proper all these years in that I all the time purchase pointed toe heels. I really like me a basic pump form, and that is actually good for us shorties! Famous!
One other tip that Tiffany introduced right here is sleeve size. Your sleeves ought to by no means fall on the similar place your waist does as a result of it creates a line that chops you in half. For those who ever see a stylist at work, that is actually the very first thing they do, each time, I swear. Roll these sleeves up women! Exhibit your wrists (and ankles!) for those who’ve received ’em!
However she would not let me cease there…
Swapping out the cumbersome sweater for one which hugged my curves with out being too tight once more helped to create extra form in my physique.
Right here I paired it with a sneaker as a result of: actual life. However oh my god these footwear are SO INSANELY COMFORTABLE. Sidenote: when you purchase them, go down a full measurement. These are a 6.5 and I am often a 7.5 in flats.
Proof that this denim was actually doing its job? Later that day my husband stated I seemed skinnier and that he favored my denims. Whaaaat? I do not assume he is ever advised me he appreciated my denims earlier than, nor does he sometimes touch upon what I am sporting until it is a gown up day. These denims are winners.
Okay, so earlier than you scroll down another photograph and marvel if I’ve misplaced my thoughts… this outfit is right here to point out you the rationale why you completely have to get clothes tailor-made to your physique. First off, this shirt is a big, and whereas my chest can also be a big, the remainder of my torso isn’t. That is the place your private stylist is available in mega useful, as a result of Tiffany instantly acknowledged that this prime had potential if we take it in across the waistline so it isn’t so blousy. As soon as she pinned a number of the material again, I used to be completely on board.
Then there have been the pants…
I have been making an attempt to put on the gaucho look ceaselessly and it by no means ever ever works on me, as is clear right here. Know why? Yup. These pants want SO a lot assist to work for my physique, and I simply could not even envision how they could work. However Tiffany confirmed me the best way:
First off, they need to be displaying the ankle, in order that they must be hemmed. Secondly, they want a number of the quantity across the backside to be taken out in order that they fall a bit extra straight and do not overwhelm my form a lot. Tiffany is doing her greatest right here to point out ya’ll what we imply, however this results in one other pro-tip. If you store, it is useful to convey little clips with you to see how gadgets will look in the event that they’re taken in a bit right here and there. Should you actually love a bit, then the tailoring is well worth the effort!
To be trustworthy, I am nonetheless not 100% bought on these pants, particularly as a result of they seem to be a little bit of a splurge and a development, which is a double whammy in my ebook. Plus, they seem to be a winter material so I might solely get a lot use out of them this yr. I’ll look for the same fashion in a lighter material that I can ease into this spring as an alternative, however the level is that I LIKE THEM. And I did not assume I might. Or might. And now I am excited to seek out comparable types!
Keep in mind once I stated I needed to go for ‘winter boho’ in a few of my wardrobe updates? Properly, that is it, 100%!!! A leather-based jacket was on the prime of my listing of wants that I gave Tiffany, and this one was a unbelievable discover for the worth. The boots are an awesome fashion as a result of they a) have a pointed form and b) do not reduce me off in a bizarre spot, but in addition aren’t too tall. They will be splendid for sporting with all my clothes! And talking of clothes, this one is incredible as a result of the material is extra of a year-round choice (vs. linen, which is what I am often drawn to) and whereas it has that boho really feel, it nonetheless provides me form.
Whereas fairly a couple of items we tried on have been an instantaneous no, or wanted assist in the tailoring division, this look was one which was instantly a win, and I can not inform you how good that feels after hours of being in a dressing room.
Tiffany identified a couple of issues round styling right here that I really like and agree with. First, the neckline is nice. It is displaying just a little pores and skin with out displaying off the women so it feels applicable for any event, however female and never stuffy. For the leather-based jacket, popping the collar a bit helps elongate the jawline and who does not want that!?
A second choice for layering right here is that this cardigan. Once more, that is the place I might have completely pulled out some outsized slouchy cardi that might in all probability have weighed me (actually) down. As an alternative we discovered this one (so reasonably priced!) with an ideal element within the again that retains issues simply tailor-made sufficient to point out off my form.
And this is every part we purchased!! I’ll say, after an extended day of buying I extremely advise over-purchasing and bringing every little thing house to see how they really feel after a number of days. There are a 2-Three gadgets right here that I’ll doubtless find yourself returning for quite a lot of causes. The black eyelet shirt (#Eight under) is basically cute, however I noticed it is tremendous just like one thing I have already got. The wide-leg pants that I discussed I am already on the fence about. And to be utterly trustworthy, the striped sweater is a bit the place I’ll attempt to discover one thing just like for much less. I like it, however the worth is a bit excessive for me, until I feel I’ll put on it a ton. We’ll see.
In any other case, I am actually proud of all of our finds! Right here they’re, with all of the hyperlinks under.
1. la vie (rebecca taylor) striped sweater – $295 | 2. topshop leather-based jacket – $177 on sale!| Three. paige denim – $229 | Four. sea midi cream gown – $425 | 5. topshop black cropped cardigan – $24 | 6. vince camuto brown suede boots – $60 on sale! | 7. purple reeboks – $65 | Eight. la vie (rebecca taylor) black eyelet shirt – $250 | 9. rag & bone cream sleeveless shirt – $295 | 10. rachel comey extensive leg pant – $345 | 11. BA&SH stripe shirt – $175 | 12. black stud element boot – $100
One other factor I discovered after making an attempt on a ton of garments is that there have been undoubtedly patterns in what manufacturers labored properly on my physique! Rebecca Taylor, Rachel Comey and ba&sh have been all repeat offenders and that is superior as a result of now I can hop on-line and buy from these manufacturers extra.
It is exhausting for me to recollect each little tip that Tiffany delivered to the desk, however this is what I actually need to level out from this expertise:
IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT, HIRE A PERSONAL STYLIST. Even when it is only for one session. Tiffany helped me escape of my consolation zone, attempt on gadgets that I would not have in any other case, crammed me with confidence in what works and what does not and that units me up for now with the ability to higher store alone! Actually, instantly after our day collectively, I went on-line and ordered a ton of different gadgets that I knew would go well with me and hopefully match me just because I lastly had some course in my type and my understanding of what works for my physique. Now I can store actually anyplace (Goal, Barneys, no matter) as a result of I do know what I am on the lookout for and that’s actually half the battle. For me, working with Tiffany was like hiring a therapist for the day.
Should you really feel you could’t afford a stylist, go discover one free of charge! Most shops have stylists that may work with you to tug gadgets the best way that Tiffany does. Chances are you’ll not get fairly the identical degree of service and a spotlight, nevertheless it’s method higher than making an attempt to do all of it by yourself. Tiffany recommends asking for the supervisor of the part you need to store in (this labored rather well for me once I was looking for denim at Nordstrom!).
Clarify to them what you’re on the lookout for, what your struggles are, and your objectives. The supervisor ought to both give you the chance that will help you immediately or discover the perfect salesperson for the job! I additionally wish to enlist the assistance of gals on the ground whose private fashion I actually like, or who perhaps have an analogous physique form. Convey a pinterest board of types you want too! And in the event you really feel prefer it’s simply not working with that individual, stroll away and check out once more one other time, or transfer on to a unique retailer.
On a private observe, I additionally needed to speak about price range right here a bit extra. For me, at this level in my life, I’ll for high quality over amount. I used to do the other as a result of 1) I might get away with sporting numerous totally different types and purchasing wasn’t so arduous, 2) I did not have the price range and three) I did not care about longevity in my items, aside from denim. That is all utterly modified.
Now that it is more durable to seek out items I really like, once I do discover them, I am comfortable to spend money on them. I really feel like my physique has settled into the dimensions that it’s, and I do not anticipate an enormous fluctuation anytime quickly, so I do know that these things will go well with me for a very long time. Additionally, having larger high quality items feels good to me: they’re minimize higher, they’ll last more, and I might somewhat have a very nice capsule wardrobe than a ton of throw-away items. I do not thoughts having a signature look or items that I’m going to time and again, so I am not apprehensive about having tons of choices.
That stated… I can also’t afford to buy like this on a regular basis. I discover it important to spend money on sure gadgets – those that may get a whole lot of put on, and those which are show-stoppers – and fill in with different items which might be slightly extra on-budget whereas nonetheless being on-brand.
I hope you guys have an interest to see how this buying expertise carries over into my ongoing wardrobe replace course of, as a result of my subsequent submit like this one goes to discover some unbelievable finances finds, some nice funding items, and slightly extra about how I am making use of the whole lot I discovered from purchasing with Tiffany into rising my self-confidence and private fashion. (Trace, trace, March’s theme goes to be alllll about this!). And for those who’ve acquired questions on this course of, depart ’em under! I might like to attempt to assist reply something I can!!